Being a Working Mom – # 6 of 7 Parenting Mantras that Helped my Sanity

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Becoming a mother was the biggest happiness of my life. A day I had longed for since forever. I love kids & I have always loved kids. Having my own was like achieving everything I ever dreamed of. But still there was something missing. Every-time I saw a working mom wonderfully managing & balancing between professional & personal life, I used to feel inspired as well depressed at the same time.

 

Before I delivered, I had a very active passionate professional life. In 2012, I was totally exhausted & fed up of the corporate job I was into. It was a great job – a good profile, great salary, awesome boss & a supportive team…. But I wasn’t happy, I wasn’t doing what I always wanted to do. so I left the job & joined fellowship program of Teach for India. Those 2 years were the best 2 years of my life. The intellectual conversations, the passionate work, the like minded people, those emotional connections with kids… I was missing all that once I was a full time mom. A very close friend of mine – Mansi Sud (Click to check out her awesome Instagram Feed) who is a Dentist & a Major at Indian Army always motivated me to start working again. Motivated by her, I did… and that’s been the best decision so far.

Being Gentle

 

Here are 5 reasons why being a Working Mom totally Rocks!!

 

  • Initially I was spending all my time with my daughters. Needless to say at times it got overwhelming & I was not always a happy & optimistic person with them. But ever since I have got back to work, whatever time I spend with them they have my undivided attention. My bond & connection has got even more stronger. As a parent I believe more than the quantity of time, what should matter is the quality of time. Although I work almost 10 – 12 hours a day out of which 6 – 7 hours are when they are at playschool or are sleeping. Having time away from kids doing something for my own development definitely helped me be a sane & better parent.

 

  • Now that I have more to do in life & am doing what I love to do, I am more calm & positive as a person. I am getting to meet & interact with like minded people & gather more knowledge. This has made me more equipped as a professional. Being into the sector of early education it has also given me a chance to meet & learn from experts into the field of Early Learning & Education. This helps me to design more focused & fun activities for my daughters. Happy kids is happy mom, isn’t it?

 

 

  • Ever since I started to work again, I feel more confident in myself. Now that I can juggle & manage a home, kids, their education, my work, passion for writing and a small home run business – all at the same time, I feel like I can conquer the world. This happiness & positivity in turn helps to work better & improve every day. The more I take up, the more capable I feel of taking up more!

 

  • I am financially independent & that’s the best thing about working. I hated the feeling of being dependent. If not for becoming a parent, I am sure I would have never taken even a single day break from work. Then why was being a parent taking away that privilege from me? I was very sure that I would start working only if I would get a job that can pay off for education & other expenses of both my kids. I would have never compromised with a part time job or work which didn’t match my caliber. I am not only able to do that, but much more. This financial independence, that I had missed in those 2+ years of not working is the best thing that happened to me. I was able to send my daughters to a playschool I wanted them to go rather than compromising on that front.

 

  • I would not want my daughters to grow up believing that it’s OK for women to give up on their dreams, aspirations & careers for their family. I want them to know that balancing between passion, work & family is not only possible but also being successful in all front is too. I think by following my passion & working towards it, I can be a better role model for my daughters. Being a working mom, more than anything was a response to this idealist in me.

 

 

This blog is written as a part of a series of 7 blogs on the theme of 7 Parenting Mantras that Helped my Sanity written as a part of Bar-A-Thon 2017.

 

Suggested Reading – You can also read about How Gentle & Positive Parenting Helped my Sanity (Click for direct link)

6 Responses

  1. Isha Batra

    Beautiful write up with an important message..thank you for sharing

  2. All your points are good and valid, the last point being the icing on the cake!

  3. gravadee

    Awesome read, the picture on the side with your daughters is so adorable

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  4. Awesome Shalu … and you need not to teach your daughters anything ..They are observing you as they have role model right at home … and you already had that spark in you … and now I am so happy to see you all so busy and happy!!!! Keep up the good work and even sky is not the limit ..God bless !!!!

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  6. Archana

    Very well explained dear..n its true…happy to read ur thoughts..keep writting

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