Safety at school – What is a parent’s role?

Safety at school – What is a parent’s role?

This morning, I opened my eyes to this horrible news that a friend shared with me. A 4-year-old girl was molested at one of the most reputed schools in my city. And as a working mother of two girls, who spend more than 10 hours a day in school’s jurisdiction – whether it is on road in their school bus, in the classroom or in the daycare managed by the school itself – it honestly scared the hell out of me!

But is worrying & getting scared enough? As today’s educated & responsible parents, don’t we all need to take certain steps to ensure that we are a part of the process for ensuring safety & overall wellbeing of our kids, no matter where they are.

It made me think – what we as parents can do to ensure our kids are at a safe place? Also, how can we ensure that our kids are confident & equipped enough to talk to us in case something goes wrong?  Here are some pointers that I came up after some diligent research.


  • An OK reputation of the school or daycare is a big red flag. DO NOT go by online reviews, but rather talk to local community & parents of kids already going to that particular school or daycare.
  • If the school/daycare authorities refuse to connect you to other parents of existing students, consider that as a red flag. If they are confident about the safety of their students, they will not shy away from letting you speak to other parents who can validate that.
  •  Check the staff to children ratio. If it is too less, no matter what’s the excuse, it is a red flag.
  • The on rolls vs. contractual staff. If the helping staff is on their payrolls, the responsibility of ensuring their behavior invariably is on the management.
  • Basic logistics such as how clean the premise is, how sorted their schedules & timetables are etc.



  • Talk to your kids about safe touch, personal space, and the YELL RUN TELL rule. You might find this article I wrote a while back about APPROPRIATE VS. INAPPROPRIATE TOUCH relevant & interesting.
  • Keep asking your kids on a regular basis how happy they are and keep checking for any signs of behavior change or wounds/bruises on their bodies.
  • Keep meeting the teachers, principal, and other involved authorities from time to time. This will not only ensure that you are always aware of what’s going on but will also give a signal to the authorities that you are a diligent parent & makes them even more on their toes about child safety.
  • Make an informal group of parents of kids in the same classroom/daycare and keep discussing the issues. If needed, as a group, go and meet the authorities to check the safety of your kids time to time.


Here’s an article by Scholastic that talks about CHILD SAFETY which is a must-read for all parents.

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  1. True to every sense. Though the parents don’t have much of the time because of being in nuclear family and work timings, they miss many of the given points. Red flags strike when something happen with thier kids which should be taken care when they are looking out options for their kids.

    Thanks for raising and highlighting these points which will help the parents.

  2. This is a very important topic to be discussed about and it’s is a great initiative taken by you by posting such informative article. I hope this should be an eye opener for all parents and they should not feel shy or conservative to talk to their kids on this issue. Great job Shalu 👍🏻

  3. I agree that parents can’t be everywhere with the child and it’s important to make them independent in this world.
    But yes, we can be an active parent connected through phone and officially visiting schools.
    Very well expressed true feelings of a mom.

  4. Wonderful post! Totally agree with your words. We should communicate with our kids about their daily engagements. Definitely, communication and alertness with spreading awareness in kids are the keys.

  5. Keeping kids secure at schools and daycare is important no denial on that. Educating the child aware of good touch and bad touch is a must too. While choosing the home outside home we must connect with real people and communicate openly. In the end, it is the matter of our kid’s safety.

  6. As a parent ,safety & security of our kids is utmost important.Very well written article and it’s on time as the School admission process are soon to start and will really help parents who are enrolling their kids for the first time.

    (Snehalata Jain)

  7. It’s first and foremost thing we as a parent are worried about and we should be and I think the pointers you shared are really good and must be kept in mind for kids!!

  8. Talking to our children and asking them questions is very important I feel. Times are so bad that we cannot just stop being scared.

    • I agree. When I was a kid, my parents were so carefree, I used to explore the surroundings all on my own. I can’r imagine doing that with my girls.