Safety at school – What is a parent’s role?

Safety at school – What is a parent’s role?

This morning, I opened my eyes to this horrible news that a friend shared with me. A 4-year-old girl was molested at one of the most reputed schools in my city. And as a working mother of two girls, who spend more than 10 hours a day in school’s jurisdiction – whether it is on road in their school bus, in the classroom or in the daycare managed by the school itself – it honestly scared the hell out of me!

But is worrying & getting scared enough? As today’s educated & responsible parents, don’t we all need to take certain steps to ensure that we are a part of the process for ensuring safety & overall wellbeing of our kids, no matter where they are.

It made me think – what we as parents can do to ensure our kids are at a safe place? Also, how can we ensure that our kids are confident & equipped enough to talk to us in case something goes wrong?  Here are some pointers that I came up after some diligent research.


  • An OK reputation of the school or daycare is a big red flag. DO NOT go by online reviews, but rather talk to local community & parents of kids already going to that particular school or daycare.
  • If the school/daycare authorities refuse to connect you to other parents of existing students, consider that as a red flag. If they are confident about the safety of their students, they will not shy away from letting you speak to other parents who can validate that.
  •  Check the staff to children ratio. If it is too less, no matter what’s the excuse, it is a red flag.
  • The on rolls vs. contractual staff. If the helping staff is on their payrolls, the responsibility of ensuring their behavior invariably is on the management.
  • Basic logistics such as how clean the premise is, how sorted their schedules & timetables are etc.



  • Talk to your kids about safe touch, personal space, and the YELL RUN TELL rule. You might find this article I wrote a while back about APPROPRIATE VS. INAPPROPRIATE TOUCH relevant & interesting.
  • Keep asking your kids on a regular basis how happy they are and keep checking for any signs of behavior change or wounds/bruises on their bodies.
  • Keep meeting the teachers, principal, and other involved authorities from time to time. This will not only ensure that you are always aware of what’s going on but will also give a signal to the authorities that you are a diligent parent & makes them even more on their toes about child safety.
  • Make an informal group of parents of kids in the same classroom/daycare and keep discussing the issues. If needed, as a group, go and meet the authorities to check the safety of your kids time to time.


Here’s an article by Scholastic that talks about CHILD SAFETY which is a must-read for all parents.

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53 Responses

  1. Ashu says:

    Very nicely written

  2. Astha Madhotra says:

    This is very important and informative, great job!

  3. Deepak says:

    True to every sense. Though the parents don’t have much of the time because of being in nuclear family and work timings, they miss many of the given points. Red flags strike when something happen with thier kids which should be taken care when they are looking out options for their kids.

    Thanks for raising and highlighting these points which will help the parents.

  4. Smriti Khatri says:

    This is a very important topic to be discussed about and it’s is a great initiative taken by you by posting such informative article. I hope this should be an eye opener for all parents and they should not feel shy or conservative to talk to their kids on this issue. Great job Shalu 👍🏻

  5. Ankita Singh says:

    Amazing article with a bang on message. Great read!

  6. simi sp says:

    As a mom I definitely would love to share this post with every parents I know. Thank you for informative and very well written post.

  7. Geethica says:

    I agree that parents can’t be everywhere with the child and it’s important to make them independent in this world.
    But yes, we can be an active parent connected through phone and officially visiting schools.
    Very well expressed true feelings of a mom.

  8. Sweetannu says:

    So important to keep kids secure in school. And truly as parents we need to make them independent.

  9. Keeping communication with kids as well as fellow parents is must. I have always spoken to parents who are availing the particular daycare or school. It actually works.

  10. Deepika says:

    Wonderful post! Totally agree with your words. We should communicate with our kids about their daily engagements. Definitely, communication and alertness with spreading awareness in kids are the keys.

  11. Keeping kids secure at schools and daycare is important no denial on that. Educating the child aware of good touch and bad touch is a must too. While choosing the home outside home we must connect with real people and communicate openly. In the end, it is the matter of our kid’s safety.

  12. A thoroughly enlightening post, I must say. As parents we must remain vigilant at all times.

  13. Sarah Shaikh says:

    As a parent ,safety & security of our kids is utmost important.Very well written article and it’s on time as the School admission process are soon to start and will really help parents who are enrolling their kids for the first time.

    (Snehalata Jain)

  14. These are really great measures a parent should consider. I keep on telling my kids about the rule you mentioned .

  15. Need of the hour post. With terrifying stories all around one should be aware of the red flag that warns you of the danger ahead. Nicely written.

  16. Worth emulating and practical advice for all of us buddy will surely bear these points in mind.

  17. It is important to keep kids safe at school or daycare centers. You shared some good points.

  18. Jhilmil says:

    These are some very important pointers that we as parents must keep in mind bride choosing school.

  19. Tina says:

    This is a very important topic for every parent. I have taught my son about good and bad touch.

  20. Ruchie says:

    It’s first and foremost thing we as a parent are worried about and we should be and I think the pointers you shared are really good and must be kept in mind for kids!!

  21. These are very important pointers to select the school and daycare and one must be a vigilant parent.

  22. jhilmildsaha says:

    Talking to our children and asking them questions is very important I feel. Times are so bad that we cannot just stop being scared.

    • The Dreamer Mum says:

      I agree. When I was a kid, my parents were so carefree, I used to explore the surroundings all on my own. I can’r imagine doing that with my girls.

  23. informative information great

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